Intimacy and Sexual Avoidance

Some of us have experienced the avoidance of sex as addictive, in some cases choosing to identify as “sexual anorexics”…afraid of sex because of its association in our minds with our addiction or with past sexual trauma, or because of a fear of intimacy and vulnerability. Trying to control our sexuality in this way is just another symptom of our disease. The solution lies in turning our will and lives over to the care of our Higher Power.

— Sex Addicts Anonymous, p. 72

1. Information for newcomers to intimacy and sexual avoidance

If you're new to intimacy avoidance recovery, here's some information that can help you get started. Read more...

2. What is intimacy?

What does intimacy mean? How does a lack of intimacy affect recovery from sex addiction? Read more...

3. Intimacy avoidance and sex addiction

Better understanding the intimacy-avoidance aspect of sex addiction may deepen recovery. Read more...

4. What is compulsive sexual avoidance (sexual anorexia)?

One aspect of intimacy avoidance can be the compulsion to avoid all things sexual. Read more...

5. ISA self-assessment

This tool provides an opportunity for reflection about some avoidance symptoms. Read more...

6. Intimacy-focused meetings

Click here for a list of electronic Intimacy and Sexual Avoidance (ISA) meetings of SAA. Read more...

7. ISA step work

Click here for information and insights about applying the Twelve Steps of SAA to intimacy avoidance recovery. Read more...

8. ISA testimonials

Read brief stories from people working the Twelve Steps of SAA focusing on recovering from intimacy and/or sexual avoidance. Read more...

9. ISA FAQ

Click here for some frequently asked questions about intimacy and sexual avoidance recovery. Read more...

10. ISA-related literature

There are several SAA resources related to intimacy and sexual avoidance recovery. Read more...

11. ISA Awareness Committee (ISAAC)

One of the SAA International Service Organization's (ISO) subcommittees focuses on raising awareness and supporting members recovering from intimacy avoidance. Click here to learn more. Read more...

X. Symptoms of intimacy avoidance

Here is a list of common symptoms. Some are overtly sexual and others are not. Read more...